Turning 40 is a major milestone.Very different from turning 21 or 30 where you finally feel like and actually start adulting, 40 is the landmark age that 'should' denote having all your ducks in a row. Realistically though, we know that's not always the case for everyone especially in today's political, economic and social climate.
Nevertheless, turning 40 means we have done a lot of learning, re-learning and unlearning, growing, developing and changing. What have we learned during these first 40 years that we can take into the next? Here are 3 life skills to have by 40 that I've personally found to be most helpful on my own journey to the milestone age.
LIFE SKILL 1: THE ABILITY TO START & CARRY CONVERSATIONS
When you're young you aren't much interested in having those serious or heavy conversations about life or religion or why Nigerian jollof rice is better than Ghana jollof 😁. I'm kidding but I'm sure you get the point I'm trying to make. It becomes important to have perspective and a point of view on relevant issues even if these are conversations you do not like, find awkward or want to have. Ask questions to gain clarity, argue without being insulting, listen to understand and learn how to agree to disagree with ease. This life skill is so important in today's world where these uncomfortable conversations are being had every other day and sooner or later, you will be having them too if you have not already and being able to state your position clearly is crucial. More important though is being open to listening to other points of view without making things personal.
2. LIFE SKILL II: CONTROLLING YOUR TEMPER & KNOWING WHEN TO WALK AWAY