Thursday, May 31, 2018

WHEN AN EX STILL HAS YOUR HEART



A friend of mine and I were talking about this recently largely because I was (and still am) convinced that his long term ex girlfriend still controls a large portion of his heart and this is making it extremely difficult for any other girl have the chance at a successful relationship with him without feeling uneasy about how much of a connection still exists between him and his ex. He was adamant about my opinion, claiming that she had no such hold on him any longer and went ahead to let me know that they had only just re-assured each-other of their now good friendship (insert rolling eyes emoji here).

Tuesday, May 29, 2018

THE 2 YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF MY BROTHER'S DEATH (27/5/2018): WHERE MY MOM IS EMOTIONALLY



The 27th of May is celebrated as Children's Day nationwide in Nigeria with lots of activities held for the kids at eateries, parks and other fun spots. While the day is always a good time for the children and their families, it has come to be a sober one for mine as we reflect on the loss of my brother 2 years ago, who passed away from complications of sickle cell disease. This year, the 27th fell on a Sunday and it was nice to go to church and spend the day praying and giving thanks to God for his life on earth and the times we all spent together. On this day, I especially worry for my mom's emotional state because as I have previously mentioned, she was the one with him at the exact moment he passed and had been the one caring for him all of his life.

Saturday, May 26, 2018

IBOGIRL BOSS OF THE DAY: MRS MARY OHALE & HER GROWING EDUCATION CONSULTING EMPIRE



Today's IBOGIRL BOSS is Mrs Mary Ohale who has successfully been able to take her years of working within the education industry and turn it into her very own business empire known as TREFIELD EDUCATION CONSULT. It is a Nigerian based overseas education consultancy established and run by Mrs Ohale who has partnered with Mr Daniel Ohalen and together they have been able to set up their own company which offers unparalleled service to qualified Nigerian students seeking further education beyond the shores of Nigeria.

Thursday, May 24, 2018

WHEN THE FRIENDSHIPS OF YOUR 20S DON'T MAKE IT TO YOUR 30S


Who can forget the popular sitcom Girlfriends with Tracie Ellis Ross and her band of friends, navigating the waters of life, all trying to figure it out in their relationships, careers and personal struggles while all supporting one another through them all. It was definitely one of my favourite shows of the early 2000s and often made me look at the girlfriends (even guy friends) I had in my own life and try to figure out who were my squad of sisters, LOL.

Tuesday, May 22, 2018

THE IMPLICATIONS OF HAVING THE SICKLE CELL TRAIT




This past weekend was packed with activities and a few television shows that I just could not miss; the highly anticipated Royal Wedding on Saturday, The Billboard Awards on Sunday that had one my favourite girl groups of all time performing a medley of their hits, Salt n Pepa then it was the Miss USA pageant on Monday. I personally had a good time just settling down to watch all these shows and thank you guys for holding on till today to get a new post. I shall be posting pictures of my looks from the royal wedding I attended over in Austin as well so look out for those soon.

Thursday, May 17, 2018

WHY AM I DEPRESSED & WHAT AM I REALLY AFRAID OF?



 I'm learning that Depression is a very real and serious issue among all age groups as we have seen a high rate of suicide particularly in Hollywood and among teens. Many who have a hard time managing their depression often end up with difficulties in their personal and even professional lives. Fear goes hand in hand with depression with extreme cases ending in suicide and even posing a danger to other people. I have had struggles with mild depression in the past ( in my late teens and early 20s to be exact) and even though I was participating in life, it was with little pleasure and/or excitement. I was depressed about my life, circumstances and just the way things were going for me in general and I think it began shortly after my parents separated. I would very often compare myself to my friends and just disliked the way I stacked up to them, I isolated myself and really battled some internal demons but thankfully, I was lucky enough to come out of that dark phase and make it on the other side okay. As I grew older, it was fear that began to take hold of me; I feared everything from flying, to child birth to failure. I avoided any and every chance to fly somewhere if I could, I had serious relationships but was secretly nursing fears of giving birth if ever one of those relationships ended up in marriage and as far as my fear of failure, I still struggle with that from time to time.

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

HOW SICKLE CELL DISEASE PSYCHOLOGICALLY IMPACTS THE FAMILY



Sickle Cell Disease sufferers obviously go through a lot of physical pain that most people will probably never fully understand or appreciate because for many of them, the pain they experience has been likened to being beaten repeatedly with a sledge hammer or as if every single organ in their body is being ripped apart from within.It is a most excruciating pain that I have witnessed first hand and do not wish on my worst enemy let alone someone I love dearly. The psychological impact is just as severe and requires just as much treatment and attention as it affects other parts of their lives that others perhaps take for granted:

Saturday, May 12, 2018

HOW CHARLES DA-SILVA IS CHANGING HIS LIFE BY PRACTICING DAILY SELF-EVALUATION


Charles Da-Silva is an American businessman who is adding the title of author to his resume having been able to turn his life around through self evaluation. A practice that has seen his life experience many successes in his businesses and personally and now he has written his first book titled The Unknown, which is the first of a 14 part series of The Self Evaluation: A Decision Series where he shares the secrets he discovered that helped move him from living an average life to one that has become rich in relationships and knowledge. He not only allowed me edit the soon to be released revised edition of the book, but was gracious enough to let me interview him for the blog today. Enjoy:

Thursday, May 10, 2018

WHY AM I STILL SINGLE IN MY 30S


Modern and contemporary media is riddled with all sorts of 'advice' and 'insight' on why a man or woman in their 30s is still single or why being single at this age is either a wonderful opportunity to discover and fall in love with your real, authentic self or is the best thing ever for you. They give us lists of all the things we are able to do because we are single that we couldn't freely do if we were coupled up. The magazines try to convince us that we are so much more mature in our 30s and so therefore now know what exactly it is that we want from a romantic relationship. The bombardment of music video lyrics and images confuse us by telling us one minute how wonderful it feels to finally be in love with a real man/woman and the next minute telling us they don't need anyone because they are happy and busy doing 'them'. The movies are no better because there is always some type of love story intermixed within the plot no matter what genre of film it is. With all these conflicting messages, it's no wonder that regular folks like you and I are left confused about whether to feel glad to be single in our 30s or concerned that all our friends are getting married and starting families of their own while we remain yet unattached.

Tuesday, May 8, 2018

SICKLE CELL IN BOYS/MEN VS SICKLE CELL IN GIRLS/WOMEN


We have already identified that Sickle Cell Disease is an inherited blood disorder that is present at birth, meaning that it is passed down through a parent's genes. Children are at a higher risk of getting SCD if both parents are carriers and having family history of sickle cell increases a child's risk for the disease. Children who have the disease start to display symptoms early on in life from between 5 months to 1 year; these may vary and could be either mild or severe. Symptoms include: 
a) Pain Crisis, b) Jaundice, c) Anaemia, d) Acute Chest Syndrome, e) Pooling (Enlarged Spleen).
Because SCD causes complications and can affect major organs in both boys and girls, it is important to understand and identify the various issues they deal with so that we as parents and family are prepared and can learn how to care for them. Having said that, Sickle Cell Disease manifests itself in many ways that affect both boys and girls in the same way; for instance both sexes can suffer from leg ulcers or serious sores, gallstones, bone damage, kidney damage and frequent infections.

Thursday, May 3, 2018

UNEMPLOYED IN YOUR 30S



Not too long ago I found myself in this very position and needless to say I felt lost, confused and extremely frustrated. It was as though yet again, life had taken me 2 steps backwards and things were not looking positive in terms of securing another job anytime soon either because like so many, I applied to several places often even applying to jobs that were going to pay less than what I knew I was worth. I just needed to feel busy and productive, to wake up every day with a purpose, have somewhere to go and with something to do.

Tuesday, May 1, 2018

SICKLE CELL DISEASE IN NIGERIA



Nigeria has probably the highest rate of Sickle Cell Disease in the world and researches have shown that at least 150,000 babies are born with the disease every year;of that 150,000, another 100,000 infants die annually from the disease.. As a result of these statistics, more and more youth are being urged to know the genotype of their intended spouses before marriage. One of four Nigerians is born with the Sickle Cell Trait (SCT), hence the need for sensitization on the disease in regards to its consequences and care before marriage and having children.