We are all familiar with the popular quote by George Addair, "Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear". Fear is a healthy human emotion just as long as it does not interfere with any other emotion to get in the way of opportunity.
If I were to ask you, what's on the other side of your fear, what would your response be? Faith? Courage? Happiness? Fear can be a crippling thing, many times preventing us from living life to the fullest. Have you ever imagined wanting to do something or go somewhere but have been unable to execute solely because of fear? I have been that girl who plenty of times has been so scared to do something simply because I was unwilling to face whatever was on the other side of my fear.
Relating this topic to romantic relationships, many women are often afraid to walk away from bad situations because of what may be waiting for them on the other side like fear of what society will think, loneliness or having to start over. Perhaps we should start thinking more positively and ask ourselves what's on the other side of our fears so we can figure out why we continue to allow our lives and decisions be ruled by those fears. Lately, it's been important for me to ask myself this without being fearful of what my honest answer would be. I have always been very critical and emotionally combative with the cards life has dealt me so much so that venturing to find out what lay on the other side was not even ever a thought. Other than the fear of what possibly was on the other side, was the anger and disappointment I felt in the present. Eventually, as I've gotten older, I have been allowing myself be more open to embracing who I am authentically and what that means is that whatever fears I may have had, I have had to forge ahead inspite of them. So fears of failure, not being good enough, disappointments, rejection, stagnation, what people may think...no longer hold me back.
Strangely though, on the other side of my fear was not faith or hope but anger. It wasn't courage or joy, it was bitterness and an unwillingness to accept my own thoughts and feelings. I don't know if any of this makes sense but ask yourself again if you haven't before, what's on the other side of your fear? Are you more afraid that what you may find is what you already know to be true about yourself? Are you scared that you will discover that on the other side of your fear is actually YOU? At the end of the day, when it's all said and done, YOU are what's on the other side of your fear. All that YOU want, that YOU believe, that YOU are and ever want to be is what's on the other side of your fear.
You owe it to yourself to be true to you and to live as honestly as you can. So while on the other side of your fear may be joy, fulfillment, peace or truth, YOU are the common denominator. Pain and change may initially precede these gifts and blessings, but until you are ready and determined to take hold of them by facing your fears (real or imagined), you will always remain a slave to it.
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