MY 10 DOS & DONTS FOR DATING SUCCESSFULLY TODAY/ TOPE AKWADA/ 31 OCTOBER
How can I be successful at dating today?What dos and donts do I need to employ for my relationship to thrive? and if I follow these to the letter, is that a guarantee for a lasting and loving relationship?
I don't know about you but personally I'm tired of dating. I'm not interested in kissing any more frogs and since my current relationship appears to be going royally well, here's my plan to make sure it stays that way.
DO: I'm making sure to have regular consistent monthly check-ins with my partner for reassurance that we are still on the same page as far as our feelings and goals go. In other words, we talk about everything!
DON'T: Piggy backing off my DO, there will not be any lack of communication or bottling up hurt emotions in this relationship. Everything will be talked about openly and immediately but respectfully.
DO: I do plan to step out of my comfort zone more in this relationship by being open to the different experiences it brings.
DON'T: I'm not going to allow my OCD get the best of me here. I'm working towards allowing things flow naturally and organically.
DO: If he wants to kiss me in public places, and he usually always does, let him!
DON'T: I will not allow date nights fizzle out, get boring or put on the back burner. I hope to always keep things fun and playful to preserve the life of my relationship.
DO: I will accept when I'm wrong and address issues maturely without feeling the need to play senseless mind games that yield nothing but aggravation for me in the end.
DON'T: I will not project any of my fears from past relationships onto this one. He is not my ex- boyfriend or ex- husband for that matter.
DO: I will always allow him love me the way he knows how but also lovingly show him how I would also like to be loved.
DON'T: Never allow disrespect even in its mildest form go unaddressed and unchecked.
BONUS DON'T: Finally and really important for me is not to sweat the small stuff any longer. Not every single thing requires a dramatic ass reaction so I will be picking my battles and throwing up deuces to the rest of the nonsense.
So there you have it, my dos and donts for dating successfully today and these had better work or else (just kidding😊). But on a serious note, I'm putting on my big girl draws and dating like an adult because like I said in in my post last week, I can be a little cray-cray and ain't nobody got time for that!
How is dating going for you in 2019? Does it still suck or are you finding better luck? Why is that? Wanna share? You probably don't but that's what the comments section is for my loves..😝 Chat to ya'll again soon.
Always Love 💕